Living in Fethiye: Saying Goodbye is Rubbish!

While living in Fethiye, there’s one aspect of our life here that we have had to accept is never going to go away; saying goodbye. I’ll hold my hands up and say I am absolutely useless at it. We live in a town where tourists come and go all the time and a lot of our Turkish friends laugh and say, ‘Oh you get used to the goodbyes.’

Well, when does that happen? We’ve been saying goodbye to friends and family, over and over again, for 8 years now and there’s no denying it; it’s rubbish!

Fethiye Harbour

There’s something about Fethiye that makes people return year after year

Last Monday, we had to say our first goodbye of the many that will inevitably come up over the summer season. Anıl, writer of tech travel blog, foXnoMad, has been based in Fethiye for the last few months and became a part of our Fethiye furniture over winter. Well, the clue is in the name of his blog and he has now moved on to pastures new, being nomadic elsewhere in the world.

Tomorrow marks the arrival of my dad and next week, we’ll be saying goodbye to him. As more and more friends come and go throughout the summer, our brains become a mish mash of emotions; day trips, eating out, drinking out, backwards and forwards to Dalaman airport, tiredness…and too many goodbyes.

But, before you go thinking we’re being a bit doom and gloom and miserable today, there is of course a bright side to all of this. The short week or fortnight we spend with our friends is fun, precious time together and of course, for every single rubbish goodbye we have to say, there’s always the great, big happy excited HELLO that must precede it! Here’s to the roller coaster ride that will be Summer 2011. We wouldn’t change any of it!

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  1. I don’t like goodbyes. I have I have so many in the past few years.

  2. Ah, I know exactly what you mean! Not that we get many visitors here in Izmir (on the contrary), but it seems that every few months or so one of our expatriate friends leaves Turkey for good. It always makes me sad, especially when we’ve shared such wonderful memories. But such is the nature of expatriate life; people are always coming and going. After almost four years here, I’ve never gotten used to it and I am always filled with dread when I think about some of my best friends leaving! What will I do then??

  3. Anonymous says

    You are so right; when I left Montreal to live on the Greek island of Paros by myself, leaving my companion and grown up children behind, I had the same feeling when they all came to visit but I always felt so lucky because they were the ones leaving and I was the one staying. We do have people who envy the lifestyle we have chosen. I am sure people tell you how lucky you are with a small point of jalousy. But YOU had the guts to change your life around and it is very difficult to do, to take the decision and act on it and especially to leave behind family and friends. I always say that we have to live our life even if it is hard at times…and saying welcome and goodbye is a big part of that choice. I cant wait to be part of your life in the fall.

  4. Looks like it’s going to be a full summer!! Lots of hellos & see you laters.

  5. Sorry that we’ll be contributing to this! We ARE still planning to come to Fethiye in a few weeks so we’ll say Hello/Goodbye then. Still, I think you guys are great, so I’m glad we’ve met.

  6. Jeremy B says

    When I first read this, I thought you were leaving Fethiye. I am sure saying goodbye is tough when you meet so many people. On the flip side, look at how many times you have had the chance to say hello! 🙂

  7. @ Nisrine: Not pleasant is it?!

    @ Barbara: Well, you will go living in places like Izmir. 🙂 Yeah, we’ve also said goodbye to a lot of people who live here, too; especially at the moment.

    @ Anonymous: I’m assuming this is Suzanne! :)) That’s what I should’ve written in the blog post. It is the choice we made and we’re more than happy with the choice. It’s just that we’re not very good at this bit. 🙂

    @ Belinda: As usual. Same every year. 🙂

    @ Stephanie: Hey, we might even stop by in Germany when you’re there. Whereabouts will you be?

    @ Jeremy: You’re dead right. Oh,and no. Not leaving Fethiye. We’re a bit rooted at the moment. 🙂

  8. Everyone knows now that I do not do goodbyes. Rather they just went. I feel like they are leaving me when they go and by not saying goodbye it is easier

  9. @ Natalie: Sometimes I feel like trying that route but then I think I’m just avoiding the situation.

  10. Hi, I found your blog on twitter and it is fantastic, I like it, so beatiful pictures and quality content you’ve got here. I come often to Fethiye but I live in Bodrum and nothing different here, but now it’s time again to say hello, when all our friends come back from Britain, Germany, Istanbul and so on

  11. Just think you live in one of those great locations that just makes people want to visit! So saying hello and good-bye becomes part of that life. =)
    I am excitedly awaiting the arrival of my in-laws at the end of the month, so I can show off my new “country.” Enjoy your visits too!

  12. @ ilktomi: Yes, the hellos are always the best bit.

    @ Joy: Enjoy you time with your in-laws, showing them your new country. 🙂

  13. I can’t imagine Anil being part of *any* furniture… I can never keep up with his whereabouts!

    I don’t like goodbyes… always au revoir.

  14. @ Corinne: He stayed around for about 10 months but still went off everywhere and anywhere. We were never sure where he was off to next and only knew it was his last night here when it REALLY was his last night. 🙂
    Yes, au revoir is much better!

  15. I’m still missing our Efes nights and conversations. It was tough to say goodbye, wish I could pack you in my bags somehow. Perhaps you guys are up for that picnic in the Golan Heights Barry was talking about 😛

  16. @ Anil: Barry might be up for the Golan Heights. I’ll just go off and have a girlie night with friends somewhere…somewhere slightly more bar-friendly! 🙂

  17. I relate to what you say. Being an expat for almost 13 years, I have said many hellos and goodbyes. The second is always a little sad, until the next hello 🙂

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